As women, our own newly learned and yet sometimes imagined empowerment can paradoxically detach us from the love and security we desire. One side we fall to the judgement of the insecure who attempt to place us in a convenient box and on the other side we fall to submissiveness. We continue to wear our burkas of lip stains and hair tints, young girls continually learning to reach for some mystical media norm. Balance becomes our survival. My work investigates the qualities of balance, empathy and open mindedness, lest we fall to the violence brought before us. We need balance between the origin of male and female. Not the balance of self and self-defined externally. My newest pieces with combinations of video, painting, music and choreography or poetry are the beginnings of my life's work; the integration of multiple mediums necessary to express life's complex beauty.